Right now, your inbox, your social update, your local news, your parrot are all screaming, “New job, you’re new!”
Spoiler alert: This is not it.
However, every year at about this time we are all deep in the elbows at the same New Year’s decisions that should never be made. The main one is usually: get a new job.
But is it worth it?
Just before Christmas, a friend approached me and told me she had received a job offer. It was a good job offer, and she was actively looking. All that stood between her and the new job was telling her current boss.
She was afraid to give her a message, and worried that her boss would give it to her. She forced, she absorbed, she hesitated. But, when she went in to inform her, her boss surprised her with a counter-offer: big. The counter-offer was for more money, but also more responsibility, a bigger degree, a seat at the table, a route towards the corner office.
She was in shock.
Knowing I had spent more than two decades mentoring people in massive moments of career change, she turned to me.
“The counter-offer is so good, but I’m not sure what I should do. How do I find out?”
I offered a solution – something I had never offered to anyone.
“What if you take mine? Unlimited evaluation Three times: once for your current job, once for the imaginary state of the outside job you have just been offered, and once for the imaginary state of promotion in your current company? “
So she did, and it helped her understand not only “what makes a good job good”, but “what makes a good job good For her. “
We’ve all been given this list of what makes a good job for good: the same old ideas that were passed on to us by school and career counselors, including things like mission, leadership, scope, influence, prestige and money. These “scorecards” are meant to determine the value of the job, but they leave the most important part of the equation: the value of the job to you.
If you have decided that your dream job is not really that dreamy, you may have done all the right things in everyone’s way to define everyone’s success, only to understand when you moved into a new era or life stage that the great life you built was for someone else.
You have no consonance – a sense of belonging without friction, of significant step, of core relevance. It is a guiding force that reveals how your work contributes to your overall life plan. It connects your daily activities to the success of those around you, and gives you clarity about why you – especially you, in this session, in this office, in that box in the corporate table – are important. Consonance is not just great (and high) purposeful writing. This is your goal, set freely and clearly by you, and carried out through awareness and adaptation to the plan of your life.
Consonance is when what you do is right for who you are (or who you want to be). You achieve consonance when your work has a purpose and meaning for you. Throughout my career, I have repeatedly seen the damage done by inconsistency, the disconnect between purpose, action and this external view of success. And I have seen that true success comes from a combination of four specific elements that allow people to carve their way, do their best work and live their best lives. The components of the consonant are reading, composition, contribution and control:
Commitment is an attraction towards a big goal of your own – a business you want to build, a leader who inspires you, a social patient you want to fix, a goal you want to serve.
Connection gives you guidelines on how your day-to-day work serves this purpose by solving the problem in front of you, increasing the bottom line of the company or achieving that goal.
Donation means you understand how this job, this brand, this salary contributes to the community you want to belong to, to the person you want to be or to the lifestyle you want to live.
Control reflects how you are able to influence your relationship to this call to influence the allocation of projects, deadlines, peers and clients; Offer input for common purposes; And do work that contributes to your career path and earnings.
The consonance seems different for everyone. It is constantly changing, evolving as we age and going through the various stages of life and adjusting to our priorities. Yours will be unique to you. The four elements that make up your consensus, however, are fixed. Before you leave your less than dreamy job, consider evaluating how these elements lengthen in their own unique way for you so that you can really find the right next job that offers you value.
A great way to do this is through the Limitless Assessment.
Now, to be fair … I just told people to take it to assess where they are in their current job. But I thought, why not? It can be used to imagine a future situation, and see if these shiny new job offers were all they were meant to be. After all, success at work does not tick all the boxes. It’s about checking the boxes that are right for you. And that means having the right amounts of calls, connection, contribution and control for you and only you.
Here are the screenshots she sent me a message when she tried it:
This is her current job. She wants much more reading, connection, contribution and control than she has.
This is the imaginary future situation for the job offer in the new company. She has the contribution there, but still out of alignment with everyone else.
This is the imaginary future situation in her current company. She is more in line with her control, and died for the money for connection and contribution.
Once she did, the decision became clear. In her current job, she did not have almost anything she wanted. Going to the new company seems like a great idea in theory. But in the end, positioning herself in the role and thinking about what it will be like on a day-to-day basis means that she has only come closer to happiness and not to the huge leap she will get from staying in place and getting the promotion. The promotion in her current job actually looked even better once she looked at it through the data lens. (Yay about the nerds!)
So, should you quit your job? Beats me. But I have a tool That can help you understand that.
Published with permission by Laura Gasner Oting
Laura Gasner Oting, author of the Washington Post bestseller. Boundless: How to Ignore Everyone, Carve Your Path and Live Your Best Life.