As a professional career coach, job search and networking, I admit I have a high standard. I have an eagle eye for both great networking and bad networking habits. My reactions to bad networking styles range from laughing to crying to giving unwanted feedback (which doesn’t always go so well). So, I channel my range of professional feelings into a format that I hope readers will find helpful.
- Offers lunch.
- Excuse me too much.
- No business cards.
- Bursts straight inside.
- Controls someone’s time.
- 6, be casual, thin or unprepared.
- To be taking.
Here are my last three fakes on the net and how to avoid them in the first place.
- Has zero listening skills
I’m a networking coach, and I’m daring. So, when someone asks me for advice, and then enters the room empty-handed, I smile and say, “How are you going to remember what I’re saying?” Inevitably, they point to their head and say, “I will remember everything.” So, I chatter, “Call Jim at 123-555-4444, call for a job opportunity with Sally at 456-555-7890 and go to flexjobs.com.” Broken! I then hand them a paper notebook and pen or ask them to get a napkin and pen from the nearest coffee barista.
There are four main reasons to have a pen and paper with you at all times:
- It shows respect. The other person was kind enough to give you time and insights. Your respect and gratitude are easily demonstrated by writing what they have to say.
- Make sure your pre-prepared questions are recorded so that you stay on track and monitor the time you requested.
- You just can not save all the information you hope to learn.
- You will want to address your comments when writing the thank you letter that will be sent within 12 hours.
- Choosing the wrong place
If someone asked you to choose a place for a serious meeting about your career, your challenges or important information you want to learn, would you choose a place with …
- Lots of noise, with people shouting names and sizes of drinks
- There is nowhere to sit
- Tons of people around to bump into your chair or listen to your conversation
- Parking challenges
- Long queues for order and awkwardness Who pays?
- There are so many better options; Consider the following options.
- Offered to come to their office. It saves them the hassle of every trip and you get to see their office environment.
- Ask them where the most convenient place to meet for them. If they choose a noisy cafe, go with it.
- If they are out of town, offer a web-based call with camcorders. Free services like Microsoft Teams and Zoom are easy to use. In any case, it’s time to master this technology because that’s where the collaboration and interviews are headed.
- Keep away from the hotel lobby or the lobby of office buildings that may have a quiet seating area.
- If you are taking a phone call or video call from home, make sure the children and dogs are cared for so that the call can continue uninterrupted. Although I love animals and children, hearing them in conversation is disruptive and unprofessional.
- A few more big things are missing
Since there are far more than 10 network glitches, I’ll group several important bad habits into one.
- Since. If you are the one who asked for help or a meeting, then it is not acceptable after. Apply the following principles:
- For a phone call, be prepared 15 minutes early in a quiet place near the phone.
- For a face-to-face meeting, they were there 30 minutes earlier.
- Do not schedule another back-to-back meeting before this meeting so that you have plenty of travel time. Put this travel time on your calendar as a meeting with yourself.
- Keep excuses like “movement”. Just say, “I’m sorry; I screwed up.”
- Waiver of basic hygiene. You want to make a great first impression, yes? And second, third and fourth. So please make sure you are well dressed, the breath is odorless, the hair is brushed, and you are clean!
- Technical challenges with internet calling. Whether you are invited to a web-based call or you are setting up a call, you must set up audio and video at least 10 minutes in advance. For those of you who are concerned about ageism, the inability to use collaborative technology will be a red flag, especially for those in the younger generations who are on the other side of the line. With simple research, you can be ready for any conversation, no matter what solution is used, from Microsoft Teams To close up To Go to a meeting.
- Disagrees with the advice you get or are undecided. Be open and flexible. Remember that if you ask 10 different people, you will get 10 different points of view. Simply listen, take notes and avoid your challenges or desire to argue. It is okay to ask questions for clarification and examine further, but do not waste precious time by contradicting the person you are talking to.
- Repeats the biggest bluffer of all: zero gratitude. You just can not say thank you enough times. Period.
Most of us were on both sides of the table, we acted as the network and we were courteous as the network. I encourage you to take the time to apply the basic steps of courtesy, advanced planning and gratitude. Everyone will benefit now that you are familiar with all the types of network flowers that should be avoided.
This article (part 3 of 3) originally appeared Here At Forbes.com.