That’s right: women are still often limited in their career growth due to male dominance in the workplace; However, victory stories are becoming more common. In the book, Presses as a technical mother: how mothers in the technology industry set goals, set boundaries and raise the bar for success, There is a common theme from the 12 women we interviewed, and over 300 we surveyed from around the world. Not only were they successful mothers who worked in technology, but they all had mentors. In addition, the women had sponsors. It is commonly assumed that these sub-roles are one identical, and are often used intermittently. It was Jenny Ibrahim from Google who reminded us otherwise:
“Mentors can identify with you, identify with you, and they can give you advice that can help you in the field. Sponsors, on the other hand, support you and help you move forward. They are in a room where others decide your future when you are not in the room. These sponsors advocate for you and inform. To others for your accomplishments. ” In other words, it’s important to have both Mentoring and sponsorship.
If mentors and sponsors are helpful supporters for one’s career, how do these allies achieve? Here are three tips you can use to find a mentor and sponsor.
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Have the courage to clarify your professional accomplishments and your interests. This is naturally uncomfortable for most women as we are conditioned to be modest with our heads down and expect them to pay attention to our efforts. Unfortunately, this is rarely the case. Therefore, capture data for the work you do, and in an appropriate framework, boldly share the impact of your business results.
When your accomplishments are known, you are more likely to get a sponsor. For example, earlier in my career when I was interested in moving to a new division, I had the opportunity to work on the periphery of a project with the leader of the other division. When I felt the time was right, I made sure she had the data talking about my performance. Then I told her I was interested in joining her team. Within two months she arranged my transfer with promotion to manager and a significant salary increase. I found my sponsor.
My employees said, “Asking a mentor is like asking someone to go on a date” and I wholeheartedly agree with that. The fear of rejection dominates vulnerable situations and being brave is the way to cut through that inner resistance. You must crush that fear and ask the question anyway. Follow this script to facilitate:
- “I admire how you ______ and achieved _______.”
- “I’m working on improving my skills in these areas _______ to _____.”
- “Would you be willing to spend 25 minutes with me each month through Zoom to serve as my mentor?”
I used this approach in 2018 when I found a crucial mentor in my life. Spoiler alert: The person I asked was my business partner and now the author of the book Emilia D’Anica. Amelia was hired by my employer at the time to teach my team about strategies and tactics for the success of some of the best clients in the class. I liked her teaching style, her career successes, and the fact that she was also a mom. I plucked up the courage to ask her to be my guide. Fortunately, she said “yes” and years later, we are now friends, colleagues and friends.
Our achievements are a result of our efforts and benefits, but they are often reinforced by the support of others in some way. For example, I had a colleague politely, and privately, told me that I had misused the phrase “intentions and goals” in an email to half of our company. I was 25 and said “intense goals” all the time. While I was embarrassed, really scared, I was more grateful. This little gesture helped me. Stop and pay attention to the Allies on your way to greatness. Now ask yourself, “How can I allow others to reach its full potential or its maximum?” Your generosity can be a small-scale act and still be significant.
As a working mother, regardless of the industry to which you belong, you face challenges, obstacles and uncertainties in your journey to expand your career. Just like raising children – this is significantly better when you have a team of people from whom you can draw advice, courage, strength and old-fashioned and good help. Look for your mentor and sponsor. Then offer to play the same role for another distressed mother.
This guest post was written by Sabina from. Pons
Sabina from. Pons He is a management consultant whose focus is on driving revenue protection and growth for technology companies. During her 20+ years of career, she has led global organizational teams, managed multi-million dollar P&L, and built teams from the ground up. Now, she serves as the director of the emerging management consulting firm, Growth Molecules.
With a master’s degree in communications, leadership and organizational behavior from Gonzaga University and a bachelor’s degree in communications from the University of Southern California, Sabina is passionate about igniting corporate change. She also sits on a number of boards, participates in many mentoring programs and has recently earned a black belt for a bachelor’s degree in taekwondo. Sabina lives in Orange County, Southern California with her husband, two young children and a Goldendoodle dog, Riley. Click ON as a Technical Mom: How Mothers in the Technology Industry Set Goals, Set Boundaries and Raise the Stage for Success is Sabina’s first book.